Overcome the Fear of Being Open and Vulnerable

How can you get over the fear of being open and vulnerable to someone again?

Have you suffered abuse at the hands of parents, siblings, boyfriend, husband or others?

If so, you understand the fear of being open and vulnerable to others again. You know the feelings of wanting to retreat into a shell and block the world out. You know the fear of being judged harshly, let down or hurt once again.

The last thing you want to do is be open and vulnerable to others. You don’t want to share personal thoughts, feelings, the trials and struggles of life. And you defiantly don’t want to be open to trusting someone only to be disappointed again.

I get it!

I was afraid to answer my estranged husband’s message after twenty plus years. Apprehensive about blogging personal stories, lessons learned in life and other thoughts openly. I was reserved to open my heart up and be vulnerable.

I thought, “what if someone I know reads this stuff.” What will they think of me? What will they think of the choices I’ve made in life? How will they judge me?

Underneath the fear of being open and vulnerable is a fear of personal judgment from others.


I’ve learned the best way to overcome fear is to “do what you fear by FAITH.”

I’ve learned everyone has flaws, made mistakes and fears personal judgment. I’ve learned God loves us all the same, flaws and all. You don’t have to live in fear of what others think of you.

What matters most is what God thinks of you!

God loves you, just as you are, flaws and all!

You don’t have to clean yourself up before coming to the Lord! In fact, you can’t clean yourself up. It’s impossible. Only the Lord can clean your heart of iniquity and transform your mind. Salvation is a gift of God’s grace and mercy.


Do What You Fear, Walking by Faith

Push comes to shove, and it’s time to take action. It’s time for me to share this blog openly with others. Yesterday, a few coworkers said they would follow me on social media. God was quick to convict my heart to comply. Well, tell them.

Is it scary to be open and vulnerable?


What will everyone think?

Will it stop me from sharing my blog, love for the Lord and what He has done for me?


I’ve learned to trust in the Lord and not to lean on my understanding.

I believe the world needs more people to be open and vulnerable with their hearts. To share the hidden pain and anguish with others who can help them overcome fear and adversity each new day.

The world needs to learn to love our neighbors as ourselves, flaws and all. God will judge in His righteousness in the end. It’s not our job! For we are all born unrighteous and made righteous in Him. It is a gift of His grace.


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